My friend is one of many men I’ve encountered who thinks a woman won’t date them because they’re not rich.
In their minds, not being wealthy means they’re “broke,” which just isn’t the case.
I am fortunate to have a wonderful longtime partner (who, as an educator, knows all about small salaries), but I sometimes wonder what would happen if I lost my job and was looking for love — would I be marriage material (assuming I even wanted to marry again, that is, which I don’t), or even dateable? ); by virtue of my gender alone, yes — I would probably be viable relationship material.
But if I were an unemployed man — regardless of age — would the same rules apply?
If he’s this unmotivated and unwilling to do what it takes to succeed for himself, how will he step up in a relationship?
Granted, gold-diggers do exist, but every woman who does not desire to “struggle” with a man does not fit into that category. I’m smart enough to know that your intelligence, connections and work ethic—not the type of work that you do—is what truly leads to wealth and success.
But it seems like a growing number of men, hell people, don’t seem to know the difference.
Find an outdoor spot with gorgeous view of the city and take your time getting there. Planning a free activity that is specific to your date’s interests, will make her or him think “How thoughtful,” rather than, “What a cheapskate.” Related: The 7 Best Libraries in America (To Bring a Date) Springing for dinner at an upscale restaurant shows your date that your paycheck is burning a hole in your pocket.
Curate a tour of your neighborhood’s best/most hilarious graffiti. Taking him or her to volunteer at an animal shelter shows your date that you’re caring, you’re thoughtful and you’re not afraid to get your hands dirty. Related: How To Be A Modern Gentleman Most people who are looking for a relationship are thinking, at least on some level, about the long term.