However, he abruptly broke up with me, with little explanation, a few months later. He was intentional — he called my dad, whom he had never met, and asked for permission to court me.If you've ever known love, you've also definitely known heartbreak.Unless the first person you've ever had feelings for becomes the person you marry and stay with forever, you've most certainly experienced a breakup, whether that breakup was wonderfully relieving, massively heart-wrenching or perfectly amicable.Because, honestly, he still isn't seeing anyone else, and I can't completely crush the hope in my heart that he is still interested in me after all this time.I feel like I am trying to balance on a fence, but fall off every time I attempt to take a step forward.
I feel now like I am ready to start being friends with him again, but I don't know how. I have avoided him, to a large extent, so to move back toward platonic friendship feels a little awkward. And how do I put aside all remaining feelings for him so that I can just be friends?
To be fair, many times, people will say this because it’s expected; a social nicety that’s supposed to ease the sting of a break-up that usually feels more like a sharp kick to your soul’s nuts.
But what if you legitimately to be friends afterwards? Just because you didn’t work out as lovers, it doesn’t mean that you can’t be friends – even Let’s start this off with some straight talk: you’re not going to be friends for a while.
Despite this, curious scientists have attempted to uncover the relationship qualities that indicate the highest likelihood of remaining friends with an ex after a breakup.
One study found if your relationship ended on a positive note, and if you had a strong support system of friends and family to help you get through the breakup, you were more likely to keep up a friendship with your ex after the relationship ended.