Source: Shutterstock After sharing a guest-post on step-parenting from the step-child’s point of view, one commenter asked an interesting question: “Should a man with no kids be hesitant to date a woman with kids?
” First, whether a man has children of his own or not, there is nothing wrong with preferring to date women without children.
To others, the word summons horrific memories of blind dates that made you want to run for the hills.
For me, the word triggers memories of blown money, awkward silences, over-analyzed text messages, and just straight-up awkwardness.
Single moms generally will want things to be rather transparent.
My guess is that she has been open with you about her children, and her interest, and she expects for you to reciprocate. I can only imagine that the prospect of falling in love with a single mom is even more unnerving than the prospect of falling in love with a woman who is childless.
She's smart, strong, and beautiful, but also a bit of a mystery. And how do you let her know that you're not just playing games—without getting overly involved too soon?
Majority of the time, it works out well and the parents involved raise children who go on to be productive citizens in the world. My relationship with my father was imperfect and strained.Updated to add: The use of the term ‘single mother’ is not exactly accurate. If you screw up and get pregnant, don’t screw up even more and bring an innocent child along with you! Divorced moms who escaped abusive marriages with drug/sex/gambling/whatever addicts should not get a free pass from you, either.If you are a mother and you are collecting child support, you are not a single mother. The rest of us who have to LIVE with your fucked up, emotionally scarred children will PAY you to have a fucking abortion. Second, single mothers are clearly really, really shitty at making life decisions. You both put each other’s happiness above your own. Now divorced mothers, who are a breed of single mothers, MIGHT be a little different, but whenever you approach one, sing this little song in your head: it takes two to tango. Even if it’s TRUE that the husband was a colossal fuck-up, you need to ask yourself what kind of imperceptive moron couldn’t spot that?It’s not a situation to be taken lightly because being in a position to shape a child’s life as a chosen, additional parent is an honor.There will be moments where you’ll have to play counselor and confidant. Sometimes, it can wear on a relationship when a child doesn’t feel free to express themselves.The female race is an elusive and intimidating breed. In fact, I would venture to say that there are times when even they don't know what they’re thinking, so you have GOT to be on your toes. Once you think you've got them figured out, you get clocked in the head with their purse, and you have to look for another gal to date.